One of the greatest and most obvious sources for support is family and friends. Even when they are our great source of help, the usual ‘fix it’ advice is most of the time not. More often than not, it contains statements such as ‘’this worked for me when I had such and such thing happen to me so you have to do this and that, it helped me.’’
Experiencing advice such as this alienates you from the unique experience that is the situation you are in and shifts the focus away from your issue, which is completely unique to you. The advice given to you is from the perspective of the giver and will not resonate or apply to your troubling situation.
Most of the time after a member of your family or friends shares the advice and we fail to help ourselves, ‘’I told you so’’ follows and all it does is worsen the problem. Disclosing your innermost troubles often results in a judgment by the people listening.
The best way is to avoid putting yourself in such a position where you might be judged for your journey. Negative things are always the ones overshadowing the positive ones and you never know when someone might bring up a memory from the past and make you relive moments that you’ve longed to move on from.
In the age of fitness and physical health craze, priorities get mixed up. Mental health care gets the last spot. One must prioritize mental health for healthy self-care practices so everything else might flow more freely. Every person needs an outlet, a way to ‘’vent’’ and unload all of the heavy and deep stuff that burdens a person. That is why a mental health professional is the number one way to disclose our problems in a non-censored manner, a way to share the most sensitive details will lift the burden.
The intimate nature of the personal experience is often the hard part that blinds us and prevents us from seeing alternative options and solutions. Therapy is and always will be your best option because it will help you open up and widen your perspective. By doing so it gives you more distance between you and your specific problem, eventually helping you safely approach and overcome the cause and the problem itself.
One of the greatest and most obvious sources for support is family and friends. Even when they are our great source of help, the usual ‘fix it’ advice is most of the time not. More often than not, it contains statements such as ‘’this worked for me when I had such and such thing happen to me so you have to do this and that, it helped me.’’
Experiencing advice such as this alienates you from the unique experience that is the situation you are in and shifts the focus away from your issue, which is completely unique to you. The advice given to you is from the perspective of the giver and will not resonate or apply to your troubling situation.
Most of the time after a member of your family or friends shares the advice and we fail to help ourselves, ‘’I told you so’’ follows and all it does is worsen the problem. Disclosing your innermost troubles often results in a judgment by the people listening.
Because of the difficult things happening to you, it is completely natural to want and understand the reasons and causes. Contributing a sense of meaning to hard moments helps you understand the purpose of the hardship and leads you to the thoughts like ‘’why is this always happening to me’’. This is exactly what gives the starting position on your journey towards relief and eventually liberation. The lesson or the ‘‘silver lining’’ is the very thing that therapy helps you ‘’uncover’’.
Therapy helps us develop coping strategies which in return helps us manage our current and future problems, helps us minimize and manage stress overload and stress overall. In the field of psychotherapy exists a plethora of coping strategies for almost every problem we might experience. Some will resonate with us, some will not. That is why you must devote yourself to therapy and help find the right coping strategy to develop a healthy coping mechanism and give yourself confidence and a sense of control. No matter the problem, no matter the situation or stressor you may be experiencing, everyone benefits from seeing a therapist regularly. Arm yourself with the right skillset and tackle the future in the right way.